Who are you allowing to control your time? Many people I know always
feel rushed or always wish they would take time to do things they enjoy
but somehow feel pressured to keep themselves busy with things they do
not enjoy. Lets start by thinking about how we are using our time and if
this is adding to our overall well being. Do you spend time buying
things you do not need? Think about all the money spent on personal
hygiene. There is a ton of marketing put into making women believe we
must get our nails done, must have our hair colored, must use perfume,
lotion, shaving cream, face wash, makeup, etc. You can reduce stress by
evaluating your To Do lists and just saying wait, is society just
telling me I should do this to get me to spend money? Consumerism is a
parasitic habitual pattern that we get sucked into without realizing it.
We suddenly have no time when we allow our environment to condition us.
It seems obvious when we think about it but so few people are bringing
it up that it is very easy to get caught up in a buying frenzy that
spreads like cancer into your schedule. That buying habit tricks you
into believing you need a new outfit for every occasion and you need to
continuously buy things to add to your home.
People are most happy when they are helping other people. The brief satisfaction that is derived from a compliment about your "lovely home" or your "new haircut" is no match to the long-term satisfaction derived from spending time thinking about who may need your support or who may need someone to listen to what is going on in their life. When we obsess over physical appearance the result is we attract relationships that are skin deep and usually unhealthy. You will be much happier if you start to realize the part you play in the relationships you are attracting to yourself. If you spend a significant amount of time purchasing products or services to improve your physical appearance, your ego is seeking gratification that you are beautiful and the person who feeds that will most likely step into your life but this type of relationship does not have a strong foundation. When we seek happiness outside of ourselves we are giving away our power. When we are consciously able to take control of our thoughts which will then allow us to control our actions and our TIME we realize that we do not need the compliments or adoration of others to feel complete. We can then attract relationships with people who have similar interests of being an honorable person and making a positive mark in the world. The ability to evaluate how you are spending your time is such a simple concept yet it offers you a much more peaceful existence.
